December 30, 2025
Admonition 4: Let Not Thy Sins Haunt Thee
Who art thou, O soul,
to empty the Cross of its power to redeem?
If from that Cross the Savior forgave
those who sought not His mercy,
how much more hath He forgiven thee
who desirest to be forgiven?... READ MORE
December 22, 2025
Admonition 3: Approach Thy Divine Majesty with Reverence
Be not as the negligent,
who examine not the state of their soul
before approaching Holy Communion.
They draw near, receive Him,
feed upon Him—
casually and without reverence.
They presume themselves righteous,
and so imagine they possess the right
to the sacred rail
while lacking a rightly ordered conscience.
... READ MORE
December 19, 2025
Biblical Masculinity: Why a Husband Must Protect His Wife and Family
A husband is like the center on a football team’s offensive line. His task is not glory, but sacrifice—to place himself between danger and what he is sworn to protect. When he weakens, his family is exposed. When he stands firm, they flourish.... READ MORE
December 17, 2025
Finding Your Way Home: A Catholic Biblical Vocation, Hearing God’s Voice and the Courage to Swim Upstream
Every man is created with a divine calling written into his soul. Discover how vocation, the Voice of God, and spiritual discipline lead you back to your true origin—and destiny.... READ MORE
December 15, 2025
Admonition 2: Examine Thy Motives
But they who respond to outward forces with an inward resolve to do the good
shall stand firm and immovable.
Remember: thy interior life giveth shape unto thy exterior life;
for who thou art and what thou thinkest cannot but pour itself forth into the life thou livest.... READ MORE
December 12, 2025
Admonition 1: Thou Art Not Made for Thyself
The foolish man, puffed with pride and blinded by error, deemeth himself self-made;
and thus doth he fancy that he is made for none but himself.... READ MORE
November 21, 2025
A Man’s Plan: A Doable, Concise, Effective Way to Be a Saint (Free Download)
I am continually trying to develop ways to simplify the spiritual life.
Considering this, I have developed a concise, doable, highly practical framework to help us become men of power, peace and influence—to become saints.
I call it the 5P Plan.... READ MORE
November 12, 2025
Questions Every Couple Should Ask Before Marriage
Most couples believe love and faith are enough to build a marriage. But what if they aren’t? Too often, the real cracks appear after the vows because they never talked about what truly matters. ... READ MORE
November 6, 2025
Make These Thoughts Go Away!
Years ago, a priest whom I and many others considered to be pious and devout, shared something, that at that time, shocked me.... READ MORE
October 28, 2025
The First Mark of a Great Man
Often men who have been doing the “Church thing” for years become discouraged because they see little spiritual growth or positive character progress shaping their lives. ... READ MORE
October 27, 2025
She’s Checked Out Emotionally: Advice From Three Men
This post will share wisdom gleaned from three men who each have been married for over 25 years, and who endured acutely painful periods, often many years, during their marriage, in which their wives did not respond to any of their efforts to enhance their marriages…But over the long haul they are winning their wives over.... READ MORE
October 21, 2025
Respect: Why Some Get It… And Others Get it Wrong
I recently read an article: 21 Easy Ways to Win Respect.
“Easy”…that’s telling.
For example:
Dress like you are in charge.... READ MORE
October 20, 2025
St. Joseph: The New Genesis of Man
Matthew relates that the history of God’s people preceding Jesus Christ was comprised of three sets of fourteen generations. In other words, six sets of seven generations. Each of these six sets symbolize the original genesis account consisting of six days of creation.The generation of Christ within the marriage of Mary and Joseph constitutes the seventh generation, a symbol of the seventh day in the Genesis creation account in which God covenants (oaths) Himself to mankind.... READ MORE
October 17, 2025
Jesus’ Way To Begin Your Day
Contemporary cultural self-help gurus proclaim, “Win the morning, win the day.””They did not come up with that idea—Christ did.
How did Jesus win the morning? He did three things.
... READ MORE
October 16, 2025
This Lie Renders Men Powerless
Have you ever heard someone say... “What can one man do?”
More specifically, have you ever thought something like this: “I can hardly change myself. How can I change the world?”... READ MORE
October 14, 2025
Should We Want to Be Exalted?
Could it be that God’s will and intention to exalt you?
But isn’t the desire to be exalted above others arrogant, presumptuous and sinful?
Is this not the sin of Lucifer?... READ MORE
October 12, 2025
Blessing and Protection for You, Your Marriage and Your Family: Consecration Through St. Joseph
Humanity is experiencing a universal famine of fatherhood and needs a father to feed them the experiential knowledge and wisdom of the full vision of fatherhood as exemplified by St. Joseph.... READ MORE
October 9, 2025
3 Ways to Reach Your Daughter
One famous podcaster’s wife said to him, “You are never here.” To which he responded, “I’m at home all the time!” To which she retorted, “Yes, you are here, you are in the pictures, but you are always somewhere else.”
Many bricks build a house, and many mini failures to be present to our daughters create a fissure that—later in life—is difficult to build a bridge over.... READ MORE
October 8, 2025
Temptation: A Means to Salvation?
God tempts no one, but rather allows us to be led into temptation, that is, the spiritual battle because man must prove that he loves the God who has proven His love for man. The Holy Spirit leads man into combat with the devil, who can only be conquered by love.... READ MORE
October 7, 2025
Why God Allows the Pain to Remain
Why is there pain?
More precisely, why does God allow pain to exist?
More specifically, why does God allow pain to afflict you?
There are several qualifiers regarding pain that are necessary in our effort to understand God, how He acts, and what He wills.... READ MORE
October 2, 2025
How the Evil Spirits Tempt a Husband to Have Contempt for His Wife
The evil sprits will strive to instill contempt in a man's heart for the Blessed Virgin Mary, women universally, but particularly for his own wife.
In regard to his wife, this contempt will become manifest in four ways:... READ MORE
October 1, 2025
Over 20 Ways to Affirm Your Wife Emotionally, Spiritually and Practically
“It didn’t come with a manual.” I wish I had a dollar for every time I heard a guy say that about marriage and fatherhood.
But it is true…and it is a hard truth. The two most difficult “jobs” for a man—being a husband and a father—commence with little to no training courses, hands-on experience, or papal encyclicals.... READ MORE
September 25, 2025
The Spiritual Life’s Achilles’ Heel
According to Greek myth, Achilles’ mother dipped him while yet an infant in Styx River, holding him only by his heel. Wheresoever the water touched Achilles, he thus became invulnerable, leaving his heel vulnerable....... READ MORE
September 23, 2025
The Same Sin—Again!?!?!
God permits a “thorn” (a weakness, an addiction, or even a deplorable sin) to linger for the purpose of uprooting the deeper vice— the one that we cannot perceive, because the vice that we cannot perceive is our most insidious enemy...... READ MORE
August 29, 2025
Having a Rule of Life Isn’t Just for Monks
Soon I discovered that I was not the only man in the Catholic space who felt lost and in desperate need of solid vocational guidance.
One friend lamented, “Why are there so few men who are canonized specifically for their fatherhood? We need someone to show us the way?”... READ MORE
August 27, 2025
Should a Husband Tell His Wife About His Sexual Sins and Addiction
Men have said something along these lines: “I have confessed my porn use—my sexual addiction—to a priest, I have gone to therapy, but I am still haunted by it.
Do I tell my wife?”
Below is an interview with Jim O’Day, Executive Director of Integrity Restored where we discuss whether a husband is to tell his wife about his sexual addictions, and if so, how?
... READ MORE
August 21, 2025
She’s not Responding – 4 Things A Husband Can Do
At retreats, men’s conferences, radio shows, via email, I inevitably hear husbands lament that their wife is checked out, no longer responding to him and their marriage is nearly finished.
They live like brother and sister. They are now sleeping in different rooms...... READ MORE
August 19, 2025
What Is and Is Not Lust
Lust, for the person committing it, has detrimental consequences.
Lust is commonly believed to be an interior disposition that if harnessed does not manifest in external behavior.
Hence the retort of the one who uses pornography, AI sexbots, or has unbridled sexual imaginations, or interiorly imagines himself sexually engaged with another, “I’m not hurting anyone.”... READ MORE
August 13, 2025
Top 6 Things Wives Say Cause Drift
According to wives, these are the top six things that men do (or not do) that cause drift and distance in their marriage.
They are listed from least mentioned to most mentioned, and finally the most frequently cited factor that nearly all the women surveyed mentioned and some mentioned repeatedly....... READ MORE
August 7, 2025
St. Thomas’ 4 Ways to Overcome Lust (And 3 More)—The 7 F’s
Today, more than ever, we men need his counsel.
Below are Thomas’ four primary ways, and an additional three which will aid us greatly before lust strikes, while it is present, and after we have fallen prey to it.... READ MORE
August 6, 2025
The Kingdom of Noise
Adolf Hitler, relating how he despised those who embrace silent contemplation, said, “Only the man who acts becomes conscious of the real world. Men misuse their intelligence....Contemplative natures, retrospective
like all intellectuals, are dead persons who miss the meaning of life. . .
... READ MORE
August 5, 2025
The Deplorable F-Word
During his homily, he mentioned that a woman said to him, “Father, I will never call God ‘Father’. My father sexually abused me. I can never call God father.”... READ MORE
July 30, 2025
The Test of a Man
It has been said that no woman can teach a man how to become a man—only a man can do that.
As true as this may be, woman is indispensable in helping the boy become a man.
... READ MORE
July 29, 2025
We’ve Got It Bass-Ackwards
Years ago, Lending Tree created this tv ad: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=r0HX4a5P8eE
That, while being hilarious, hits a little too close to home.
Stanley, with a constant smile on his face, boasts of his big house, big yard, new car, pool and appears to have it all....
... READ MORE
July 23, 2025
He Said, “It’s Not About You.”
In my early twenties, while working as an art director at an advertising agency, I was having a conversation with Bret, a very talented copywriter.
As usual, I had brought the conversation back to myself, when Bret interjected, “You know Devin, it isn’t always about you.”... READ MORE
July 22, 2025
Riding in the Wrong Tesla
After my flight landed in Vancouver, Canada, I texted Peter, who was appointed with the task of picking me up, indicating that I arrived safely.
Peter promptly replied, asking me to call him after I successfully passed through customs —then he would give me next steps...... READ MORE
July 16, 2025
Poop in The Brownie
My friend Greg will often describe an attractive idea that contains ‘‘mostly’’ truth, but a little nontruth, as having ‘‘a little poop in the brownie.’’
Nobody likes poop in their brownies, and no one likes being duped into believing an attractive truth, only to discover later that it is a lie...
... READ MORE
July 15, 2025
Your Wife Is Not Convinced of Your Love—12 Reasons
One thing—without fail—makes a wife happy.
She wants this above all.
At the core of her being—wants this.
I wish I knew this when I was young.
If I had, I would not have caused my wife so much pain.... READ MORE
July 9, 2025
The Art of Being Fearless
Fearless. The very word evokes strength, courage, honor, and resilience.
Conditioned by film producers, we tend to think that being brave means having no fear.
The truth is that courageous people have fears too. ... READ MORE
July 7, 2025
“I wish I heard this twenty years ago.”
Consistently, after delivering a conference talk, or our four-part men’s retreat, a man will take me aside and say with heartfelt anguish, “I wish I heard this twenty years ago.”... READ MORE
July 2, 2025
Sickness and Unforgiveness 3 Signs That You Haven’t Let Go
Medical research has demonstrated that unforgiveness is linked to stress, heart disease, high blood pressure, lowered immune response, anxiety, depression and more (John Hopkins Medicine).
Recently, I encountered a woman who will not forgive her husband for having an emotional affair.
She suffers from a number of very intense health problems, including a second round of cancer.... READ MORE
July 1, 2025
Make Prayer Powerful: 3 Steps
Have you thought, while praying, that you were really not praying?
Have you ever had the thought that during prayer you didn’t think once about God?
Many people pray but leave prayer unchanged.
Unchanged people have no power to change the world around them.... READ MORE
June 11, 2025
Your Noble Duty, Divine Purpose, and Call to Glory: Show Us the Father
Imagine that you and your family are dwelling in a war-torn land, amidst continual gunfire, the sporadic explosion of bombs, and military violence. Your wife and children are constantly in harm’s way. Your neighborhood is a battleground...
... READ MORE
June 4, 2025
Picking Up Mixed Signals
You and I are like soldiers on the battlefield who have the difficult task of deciphering the real message—the divine message of our mission—being transmitted among the many mixed signals.
Whose voice, whose message are we receiving—our divine commander’s, or our enemy’s? ... READ MORE
June 3, 2025
The Most Important and Overlooked Thing that Men Need
If you are a drawer, a tool bag, a garage, how ordered are you?
Do you appear to have it together on the outside, but inside lurks chaos, disorder and a lack of peace?
Establishing order in one’s life is the most overlooked, but essential, God-given duty of every man, and is the very foundation of a virtuous, sanctified, accomplished life.... READ MORE
May 28, 2025
The First Mark of A Man of God
Have you ever wondered, “What can I do to be a better man?
How can I become a father who leaves a legacy?
What is the secret to becoming the man that God has created me to be?”
Often men who have been doing the “Church thing” for years become discouraged because they see little spiritual growth or positive character progress shaping their lives. ... READ MORE
May 27, 2025
Another Lamb of God?
The two fundamental arms of the Christian man’s life are identity and mission.
So interdependent upon one another are these two that to neglect one would be to neglect the other.
For if a man knows not who he is, how can he know who he is to become?
If a man does not comprehend his identity in Christ as a son of God, how can he become like God’s Son, the Christ?... READ MORE
May 21, 2025
Becoming the Custos: The Mark of the New Adam
Where was Adam during that decisive moment of temptation, when the serpent pressed his doubts and allurements upon the soul of Eve?
In the sacred text we discover an answer: “And she took of the fruit thereof, and did eat, and gave it to her husband who did eat.”
Adam was there, present next to Eve, a silent witness and accomplice to evil.
... READ MORE
May 20, 2025
4 Things Every Successful Father Does
...To effectively embrace each of these essential pillars it is imperative that we understand our charitable authority.
If there is none to lead, none will follow.
If you do not lead your family from evil, evil will lead your family.
However, the culture, ideologues and many governmental programs are hostile to and oppose this God-ordained and proclaimed truth....... READ MORE
May 15, 2025
The Devil’s Six Darts
The evil one assails us with six darts for the purpose of preventing us from being lifted up in sacrificial glory, and become like Christ: a magnet of self-giving love.
Theses six darts are: doubt, discouragement, deprecation, disobedience, despair, and ultimately death...... READ MORE
May 14, 2025
Who Do You Pray To? It Matters.
Recently I asked a large group of men on retreat, “Raise your hand if you pray—not to Mary, not to St. Joseph, not even to our Lord Jesus, but—to God the Father—specifically.”
Not one hand went up.... READ MORE
May 7, 2025
Women: Agony And/Or Ecstasy
A wife is one of God’s most tremendous blessings, but also can be the source of significant angst, frustration, and heartache. Woman, the garden—created to be a delight—can often become a place of incredible tension, and resentment…... READ MORE
May 1, 2025
Your Greatest Battle
Why do so many men experience a midlife crisis?
They wake-up to the reality that they are not who they desire to be and therefore believe that they need to do something to determine or discover their own identity.
This may be the deepest, most fundamental challenge for every man: to know who he really is.
... READ MORE
April 29, 2025
The Formula for Freedom and Greater Glory
Why do average people become glorious human beings? Why do some sinners become great saints? What is the secret to receiving, achieving and fully living in the glory of God most high?... READ MORE
April 23, 2025
Do You Need Her?
A while back I posted a video “Why Men Really Need Women.”
The comments associated with that video were enlightening:
“To pay alimony and feeling dumped.”
“Let's all be honest here, it's those ‘Holes’. Without those ‘holes’, men don't really need them, and most men wouldn't even be interested in spending time, attention, effort & money on them.”
“We don't need them.”..... READ MORE
April 23, 2025
Fathered by the Phone
A recent United Kingdom study titled, Lost Boys: What’s happening to Young Men in Britain, offered an unsettling insight: “boys are now more likely to have a smartphone than live with their dad.”
The study revealed that 2.5 million British children live without a father at home—that’s 1 in 5 kids. The situation is similar in the U.S.
... READ MORE
April 17, 2025
St. Joseph’s Secret Weapon
A man can be tempted to believe that his wife holds him back.
Or that he doesn’t need her to become the man he desires to be.
That was not the case for St. Joseph.
He needed Mary.
By taking Mary as his wife, Joseph received his vocation, his fatherhood; he grew in responsibility, exercised strength, and learned to love profoundly.
... READ MORE
April 16, 2025
Psalm 22: 10 Ways Jesus Fulfilled the 1000-Year-Old Prophecy
Far from a cry of defeat, the words, “O God my God . . . why hast thou forsaken me” was Jesus’ recitation of the first line of the prophetic Messianic Psalm 22.
By saying the first line of Psalm 22, Jesus was stating that the one-thousand-year-old prophecy contained in the psalm is now fulfilled in Him.
Far from being a cry of death, at that very moment, from the Cross, in the face of His nemesis, Christ proclaimed His definitive victory over evil.... READ MORE
April 9, 2025
How to Love Her: 3 Ways
Have you ever experienced your wife becoming resentful toward you, or perhaps resistant to you?
Resistant to your ideas, thoughts or proposals?
I know I have.
When this occurs, I am often bewildered as to why my wife is behaving this way toward me.
... READ MORE
April 8, 2025
Wrong and Real Repentance
Considering this, the truth is that you will sin.
But how you respond after that shameful moment has the potential to determine your life’s trajectory and, indeed, your eternal destiny.
How you repent matters. St. Paul tells us, “For godly grief produces a repentance that leads to salvation and brings no regret, but worldly grief produces death.” (2 Cor 7:10).
... READ MORE
April 2, 2025
The Sin of Loneliness
During my interview on Pints of Aquinas with Matt Fradd we discussed the plague of male loneliness that is hollowing out the men of American and globally.
Consider that:
In 1990, 55% of men said that they had six or more close friends.
Today, 15% of men say that they have zero close friends.
80% of men won’t approach a woman for fear of appearing creepy or being rejected.
80% of suicides are men.
20% of men under the age of thirty live at home with their parents.
50% of single men are not trying to date and aren’t interested in pursuing a relationship.
... READ MORE
April 1, 2025
Love That Incurs Hatred
The world’s version of virtue is embodied by “getting along,” avoiding moral judgements, and proclaiming and living the gospel of “niceness.”
Peace, kindness, and love are terms that the secular culture has hijacked, disfigured, reinterpreted, and manipulated as an imposition on the Christian man that he might become manageable...... READ MORE
March 26, 2025
What Suffering is All About
Does God want us to suffer?
Many a preacher of the Gospel contends that Jesus came to deliver us from and alleviate us of our suffering.
Feeding the multitudes, healing the lepers, curing the blind, raising the dead all offer ample testimony that supports this idea.
On the other hand, many a preacher proclaims:
“No suffering…no Jesus. Know suffering, know Jesus.”... READ MORE
March 25, 2025
The Bully’s 4 Tactics
Am I really responsible for other people’s salvation?
Everyone has free will.
Therefore, it is up to each person to decide his own fate. Right?
It is enough to be concerned with getting myself to heaven.
But doesn’t that seem a bit selfish?
... READ MORE
March 19, 2025
What Separates the Men from the Boys
Love your enemies.
Do good to those who hate you.
Our Lord’s command not only seems impossible, but unjust.
Would not the world be better off if the bad were burned, the evil executed, and the unjust justly condemned?
... READ MORE
March 18, 2025
Why Good Men Fail at Becoming Great Men
Adam was a good man…but he failed.
Jesus was the greatest man.
In the moment of what appeared to be the ultimate failure, He succeeded.
Why did Adam fail in the moment of temptation? ... READ MORE
March 17, 2025
The Secret Sauce of the Saints
To discover who we really are, to discover who God has designed and destined us to be, can be one of life’s greatest challenges.
There is a way...... READ MORE
March 12, 2025
Women Should Lead the Family?
Some contend that Christ’s vision, the biblical understanding, the Church’s teaching regarding marriage includes the controversial notion that a husband is the head of his wife.
But how can that be? Isn’t that type of thinking the height of inequality?
What if a husband is not as intelligent, holy, self-giving as his wife?
Or worse, what if a man is abusive, dismissive, or neglectful?
... READ MORE
March 10, 2025
Three Things Great Dads Do
We want our children to know God…to love God.
But how can they know and love a God that they cannot see, hear or feel?
The answer to this question seems beyond us.
But what if there is someone on earth who could transmit the face of the Father that they cannot see, the voice of the Father that they cannot hear, the touch of the Father that they cannot feel?
... READ MORE
March 5, 2025
Transform Your Trials into Your Triumph: 3 Steps
...Of course, there are a million more reasons why our lives end up being what we don’t desire them to be.
We often despise others because we despise our life, and we despise our life, not for external reasons but because we despise our internal self...
This post is for anyone whose pain of not becoming who you were created to be, becomes so intense that you are willing to embrace the pain of changing your life...
... READ MORE
March 4, 2025
A Surprising Path to Glory
A vocation is more than an occupation.
Occupations are transient and changing and at the service of an exchange of goods.
A vocation is a permanent covenant, at the service of an exchange of persons.
An occupation can be defined as what you do for a living, whereas a vocation is defined by who you are living for.
... READ MORE
March 3, 2025
You Are Like God…
Have you ever sensed that you are called to something more, to accomplish something, or to be someone great?
Have you ever thought that you have an essential mission that, if fulfilled, will greatly impact humanity?
The authentic version of that desire and call to greatness is divinely inspired.
It is God’s voice calling you to be like Him...... READ MORE
February 26, 2025
How to Discuss Sex With Her—7 Tips
Early in our marriage my wife’s and my sexual desire and libido aligned nicely.
But due to complications during the birth of our third child, my wife’s OB warned her that if she became pregnant, complications could ensue, she could possibly hemorrhage and perhaps die.
Almost immediately sexual intercourse ceased...
... READ MORE
February 25, 2025
Protect Your Wife
The worldly man, the fleshly man initially benefits from these errors.
Yet, in the long run, women do not respect or respond to such a man.
The strength that a man believes he has by using a woman, becomes his weakness.
Believing that she is a slave to him, he becomes enslaved by his disordered passion for her.
Women desire men who use their strength to protect them, rather than neglect them.
... READ MORE
February 24, 2025
Hard Truths Regarding Men and Women
Feminism is the ideology of women believing that they can live without men. Feminism convinces women that they are not be shackled to the role of being a wife, having children, being married, or having a husband. Feminism convinces women that they must be liberated from marriage, motherhood, and the family. ... READ MORE
February 19, 2025
Give Up Your Family This Lent
This title is not click-bait.
This topic is not anti-marriage or anti-fatherhood or anti-family.
Jesus said, “And everyone that hath left house, or brethren, or sisters, or father, or mother, or wife, or children, or lands for my name’s sake, shall receive a hundredfold, and shall possess life everlasting.” (Matt 19:29)
Our Lord’s words are extremely challenging and unsettling...... READ MORE
February 18, 2025
Get Control Over Your Life By…
Shortly after his betrothal (the first stage of Jewish marriage) to Mary, St. Joseph was faced with a crushing crisis: his wife was pregnant without his cooperation. According to the mandates of the
Mosaic Law, a woman who became pregnant before the second stage of Jewish marriage (the solemnization) was to be executed by stoning as a consequence of her infidelity to her husband and to the Law...
... READ MORE
February 17, 2025
Wild Man: Time to Ask For Directions?
...What is your location in the context of God’s plan of salvation?
How does your location affect your vocation?
The answer to the divine question “Where are you?” is the key to understanding and unlocking the power of your masculinity and fatherhood, and will help you understand why you are essential to God’s plan, to your wife, and to your children...... READ MORE
February 12, 2025
Prayers that Keep Me Anchored
One of our faithful Father of St. Joseph group facilitators in Ireland asked me to provide some prayers that are…well…not as verbose as the ones I have written. Prayers that are easier to remember and memorize, and consequently, easier to pray...... READ MORE
February 11, 2025
Marriage: A Blessing or a Curse?
From the moment that a man allows another person to occupy the dominion of his heart, it becomes vulnerable, and he risks being sorely tried and severely wounded.
The Sacrament of Marriage is an intense fire that purifies and perfects a man in his efforts to love his wife as Christ loves the Church...... READ MORE
February 10, 2025
Why Your Fatherhood Is So Vital
It is difficult enough to be compared to another human being, but it’s another thing entirely to be compared to the perfect, all-knowing, all-loving, all-giving, all-powerful God. And yet, Jesus audaciously challenges us and even desires us to make this comparison...... READ MORE
February 5, 2025
Women Said This Makes Men Look Weak
...Recently, my wife and I had the opportunity to ask married women what makes men, specifically husbands, appear weak.
After gathering all the feedback, I was surprised that not one woman mentioned height, physique, muscles, or wealth…not one...
... READ MORE
February 4, 2025
Powerless to Powerful
...Many men deny, neglect, or misuse their fatherly kingship. Many believe the lie that the secret, unknown, hidden father is useless, powerless, and ineffective. This is a demonic deception...... READ MORE
February 3, 2025
Love Your Kid! Your Child’s Future Depends On It
...Even St. Joseph himself lost sight of the twelve-year-old Jesus momentarily, leaving Him behind in Jerusalem, as he and Mary began their trek home after the feast of the Passover. However, after realizing that his gaze upon Jesus was disrupted...... READ MORE
January 29, 2025
Vali-Dating Your Wife: How to Date Her
I had just turned thirty.
Jim, the husband of a female friend of mine, Mickey, had just died.
His death was one year prior to their 50th wedding anniversary.
I stopped by Mickey’s to check in on her.
During our conversation I asked her what the secret to their marriage was.
Mickey mentioned several factors.
But when she talked about “weekly date-night” she lit up...
... READ MORE
January 28, 2025
Five Reasons to Be Devoted to St. Joseph
There are many reasons why we ought to be devoted to St. Joseph.
Yet so few men take St. Joseph as their friend, mentor and guide.
If they only knew the incredible benefits of having St. Joseph as their spiritual mentor, they would be most devoted to him.
If you decide to devote yourself to St. Joseph, here is what awaits you:... READ MORE
January 27, 2025
The Gaze We Desire
Have you ever met someone who avoids looking you in the eyes?
He looks around you, but not into you?
Have you ever struggled to make or retain eye contact with someone?
Why do people avoid the gaze of another?
The simple answer is that we are all afraid—afraid that the other may see something in us that we don’t want them to see; or perhaps on a deeper level, we are fearful that they won’t see something in us that is desirable...... READ MORE
January 21, 2025
How To: Your Best Morning Offering
The Foundation is Essential.
You can build a splendid house.
But if that house is built upon a faulty foundation, regardless as to how grand it appears, it will eventually crumble.
It cannot endure.
Our Lord, the eternal craftsman tells us that there are those who build their house (their life) on rock (solid habitual beliefs and actions based on His Word) whose lives endure in glory.
And there are those who build their lives on sand (faulty, shifting beliefs and actions based on human respect and opinion). He refers to these as foolish men.
... READ MORE
January 20, 2025
What Will You Be Remembered For?
Have you ever trekked the grounds of a cemetery wondering if any of these people are remembered by those living on this earth today, and if they are remembered, for what precisely are they remembered?
If you look closely at those gravestones...... READ MORE
January 18, 2025
Why Every Man Needs St. Joseph
We have Jesus, we have the Blessed Virgin Mary, and numerous saints who intercede on our behalf. Why do we need St. Joseph?
Jesus and Mary are the most compelling examples of faithfulness to God. Jesus was, and is, a son—the Son of God. Mary was, and is, a mother—the Mother of God the Son.
Yet, as perfect as Jesus is, and as holy as Mary is, neither of them had the human
vocation of fatherhood. Joseph alone was father and husband.
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January 17, 2025
The Most Important Man
Have you ever considered who the world’s most important man is?
There are hosts of men who are marked by the character and attributes of power, influence, and popularity. Presidents of nations, popes, founders of megachurches, software developers, authors, philanthropists, investors, entrepreneurs, scientists, professors, professional athletes, actors, and inventors are commonly considered candidates who might qualify to meet this noble description...... READ MORE
January 15, 2025
The Secret to Knowing God’s Will
Perhaps you have heard someone say something like:
“How do I know what God’s will is for my life?”
If you are serious about being Jesus’ disciple, you also, have asked a question similar to the one above.
Is it God’s will that we break up?
Is it God’s will that I get married?
Is it God’s will that I be a priest?
Is it God’s will that I quit my job?
Is it God’s will that I take that job offer?
Is it God’s will to enter full-time ministry…purchase that home…become a missionary?
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January 7, 2025
How to Know If You Are a Self-Idolator
Why is belief in God decreasing?
My hunch is that Christians and the practical outcome of their lives, aren’t all that different than people who are worldly.
If Christians act like the world, look like the world, live like the world…why would anyone want to be a Christian?
It is easier just to be worldly without any moral restrictions.
Just a cursory look at believers indicates that people profess that they believe in God but in practicality live as though they do not.
My friend speaking of such a person says, “He is a professing theist but a practicing agnostic.”
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December 3, 2024
Why People Are Miserable…Or Happy
Have you ever had thoughts like this:
Why can’t I be happy?
Why is that person so happy?
Is there a secret way to be happy?
Why are people so miserable?
More precisely, how do I stop being miserable?
Have you ever felt frustrated, perhaps irritated because a friend, co-worker is always “chipper?”
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October 8, 2024
How The Monsters Will Take Over the World
My wife and I took our grandchildren to Empire Park.
A vast wooden citadel comprised of monkey bars, tire bridges, swaying steps, and towers.
Bash and Goose, my two grandsons, implored me to enter into the wooden kingdom and “adventure” with them.
As Bash, Goose and I ran amuck like wild men something weird transpired...
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September 4, 2024
Should a Wife Try to Be Beautiful?
A bachelor wants a beautiful woman.
A husband desires his wife to be beautiful.
Both have been accused of being shallow.
Shallow?
Or misunderstood?...
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September 4, 2024
Peace and Confidence that Worldly People Envy
We all want peace.
The kingdom of the world has its version, as does the Kingdom of the Word. Only one can satisfy our deepest longings.
In this post I will examine:
The world’s peace: its four marks and its six promises.
I will also outline the three characteristics of true peace which empowers a man with the confidence to rise above the temptation to bow down to the world.
I will give you a sure-fire method to determine from which of the two fountains—the world or the Word— you are drinking from?... READ MORE
August 21, 2024
The Ultimate World War
Things are not what they seem.
What appears to be the path to peace and fulfillment is often a glass ceiling.
We are being bought off.
Pacified with pleasure, we forget and neglect our noble calling, and the arduous work demanded of us to become men of glory.
Only by becoming a man of glory can we obtain the peace that surpasses all understanding...
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August 21, 2024
The Difference Between Lust and Attraction
My neighbor purchased a new riding lawnmower.
It sparkles. It shines. It purrs like a kitten.
I can admire his lawnmower.
I can appreciate his lawnmower.
Or I can imagine myself riding his lawnmower...
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August 8, 2024
St. Joseph Was Not Chaste
Recently someone commented on one of my videos “Why Men Really Need Women” saying:
"Joseph did not remain chaste. He fathered at least six children after Jesus was born.”
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July 31, 2024
How to Know If You Are of the World.
The Christian is to be in the world but not of the world.
But how do you know if you are of the world or of the Word?
This question haunted me.
Should I own a house? Save money for the future?
Is watching movies acceptable?
Scrupulosity (a psychological disorder primarily characterized by obsessive guilt associated with religious norms) took hold.
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July 30, 2024
Satan’s Statue: What Does It Really Mean?
During his presentation on spiritual warfare, Fr. Peter Zorjan, said that occultists are attempting to erect the statue of Baphomet wherever the 10 Commandments are stationed.
For example, the image of Baphomet sits next to the 10 Commandments monument at the state capital in Springfield, Illinois.
Fr. Zorjan says, “Spiritual warfare ultimately boils down to one thing... ... READ MORE
July 21, 2024
Why Husbands Fight With Their Wives: The Core Reason
In the moment that Eve tempted Adam, he became conscious of the fact that to resist the evil presented by Eve to partake in the forbidden fruit would demand that he resist her.
On one hand, if Adam separated himself from Eve, who “at last is bone of [his] bones and flesh of [his] flesh” (Genesis 2:23), he would have remained with God.
On the other hand, by clinging to Eve, Adam would cut himself off from God.
Adam chose to side with her rather than the God who gave her to him.
Eve became Adam’s idol…and also his bane.... READ MORE
July 19, 2024
My Daughter Taught Me This About Women
Last Fall, my daughter Gabrielle married Anthony.
According to custom, the reception included the Daddy-Daughter Dance.
Gabrielle’s beauty was pure, arresting, stunning (and she wasn’t wearing an ounce of make-up).
I had given her away.
And yet, she was mine, for one final moment, for one last dance.... READ MORE
July 9, 2024
One Huge Reason Dads Fail
A man’s core need is to be respected.
Young boys respect their dads immensely.
Boys grow up wanting to be respected by the man they respect the most—dad.
The boy craves his father’s attention and approval.
If a boy is not approved by dad, he becomes a man who starves for respect...... READ MORE
July 4, 2024
Why I Lack Joy
A Franciscan friar, and I sat, facing one another in the midst of the monastery’s lawn.
The topic: my lack of joy.
He counseled, “You lack poverty.”
I was perplexed.
“You mean I have to be poor to be happy.”
He explained how joy and poverty were related.
I failed to understand the connection.... READ MORE
July 3, 2024
After You Fall: 6 Must Do’s
You have fallen—again.
Sinful postpartum, self-accusation, and satanic condemnation assail you.
What you do in this moment determines your future.
The proper Response—the 6 R’s.... READ MORE
June 20, 2024
Can Lust Be Conquered? 7 Strategies
Sacrifice compelled by love, is the mark of the true man.
Never trust a man who doesn’t love, sacrifice, or sacrifice for that which he loves.
Especially yourself.
Lust is the enemy that undermines your manhood...
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June 11, 2024
3 Things I Did to Kill the Boy
I was haunted by the unsettling reality that I was not a real man.
Spiritually slothful, easily overcome by temptation, I was a boy trapped in a man’s body.
By the age of 26 I resented the person I had become...
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June 11, 2024
Is Your Desire Too Small?
Desire is a double-edged sword.
Desire awakens the hope of attaining a “good.”
On the other hand, desire rouses lament because what is hoped for has not been attained.
Desire’s tension is analogous to Israel’s exodus from Egypt.
After leaving Egypt, and before entering the Promised Land, is a period of testing, and wandering...... READ MORE
May 23, 2024
Detaching From Problematic People
Have you been betrayed? Abused? Maligned? Cheated?
Is there someone you don’t like, or who doesn’t like you?
Christ admonishes us: unless you forgive your enemy—from the heart—God the Father will not forgive you.
Forgiveness is conditional.
Forgiveness is granted to those who grant it.
Holy detachment is a prominent theme in the spiritual life...... READ MORE
May 23, 2024
D.E.I or DIE?
D.E.I.: Diversity, Equity, Inclusion.
Diversity: “Embracing all aspects of human difference…”
Except for those who believe in binary gender difference (male and female).
Notice the “difference.”...... READ MORE
May 23, 2024
St. Joseph’s Authority— 4 Marks
Authority is often misinterpreted as domination.
Consequently, men fearful of being tyrants renounce their authority.
Yet, to deny a reality does not negate its existence.
To deny authority because people misuse it is to misuse your authority to dismiss the goodness of it...... READ MORE
May 8, 2024
Your Wife Doesn’t Feel Loved: 7 Warning Signs
A wife’s number one need is to be secure in love.
Notice the nuance. Not just loved…
She wants to be “Secure” in her husband’s love.
Certainty is the key element.
A wife that is certain of her husband’s love for her will make her husband feel loved.
She will be more confident...
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April 25, 2024
She Consented… And That Makes it Right.
Andrew Tate—particularly in his interview with Tucker Carlson (who gave him a pass)—defends his objectification, abuse, and pornification of women with the excuse that the sexual acts with these women were consensual.
According to Tate, consent justifies a pornographic, adulterous, sexual act.
Let’s test this…... READ MORE
April 23, 2024
Four Practical Tactics to Defeat the Devil
Many of us, unwittingly, grant the devil power over us.
Why?
We cling to something that gives the devil permission to cling to us.
Four practical ways to cast out demons...
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April 19, 2024
I Need You to Come Home and…
Conviction births conversion.
Often, to do the right thing we must be convinced that we are doing it the wrong way.
I had just turned thirty.
My wife Kim was 28-weeks pregnant with our third daughter.
Suddenly she went into labor.
By means of an emergency C-section, our O.B. saved our daughter, Anna Marie’s life...
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April 18, 2024
Two Things That Make a Dad Like God
Striving for virtue, our fallen nature tends toward either deficient or excessive behavior (St. Thomas Aquinas).
Regarding food: we starve ourselves (deficiency), or binge (excessiveness).
Regarding sex: we deem the act as perverse (deficient) or we indulge immorally (excessive).
Regarding fatherhood...
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April 15, 2024
After Committing Adultery…Three Steps
Many of us have committed adultery—physically, digitally, or both.
Often when the husband is guilty of infidelity, his wife blames herself.
Many men who have committed adultery have confided in me that their infidelity has little to do with their wives.
A man does not commit adultery because his wife is not more.
He is unfaithful because he is plagued by believing he is less...
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April 8, 2024
Catholics Could Be Alive – if they believe this…
Many Catholics are dead.
I don’t mean that they have died.
They have a pulse. They breathe. The appear alive.
But they are spiritually lifeless.
They live to exist, rather than using their existence to live.
Our Lord said to the early church in Sardis, “You have the reputation of being alive, but you are dead” (See Rev 3:1).
The situation is far worse today than in first century Sardis...
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April 1, 2024
St. Joseph’s Spirituality
Endeavoring to know St. Joseph I encountered several obstacles:
1. No record of anything St. Joseph said exists.
2. The Sacred Scripture mentions him sparingly.
3. Myth and legend eclipsed the truth regarding him.
I began praying over the scripture passages referencing St. Joseph.
Mysterious silence shrouds Joseph.
Yet that silence speaks profoundly of his fatherly greatness.
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April 1, 2024
The Burden a Wife Should Not Bear
Women identify men who they deem capable of providing financially and protecting physically as having the potential to be “husband.”
During the dating/courting phase, men put on their best show.
They veil those secret haunting insecurities of self-doubt.
The woman is convinced that he has what it takes.
Post wedding day, a husband gradually shows his true colors.
Little by little he confides in her his self-doubts...
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March 25, 2024
St. Joseph’s Obedience— The Key to Being Respected
Without respect, a man cannot lead effectively.
The man who respects not will not be respected.
By resenting authority, a man undermines his own authority.
Why? By submitting to no one, he gives others permission to submit not to him.
If a person of authority desires respect, he must give respect to the one from whom he received authority.
How?
Obedience.
We “Go to Joseph” to learn to be a man;
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March 25, 2024
Your Wife Avoiding Sexual Intimacy? This Could be Why…
Your Wife Avoiding Sexual Intimacy?
This Could be Why…
A husband can be disconnected emotionally from his wife— and desire sexual intimacy with her.
When a wife’s emotional needs aren’t addressed, she often resists his sexual advancements.
God created conjugal union to reflect His Triune Godhead.
Each divine Person unreservedly, unselfishly gives to the other, for the sake of the other, and is one with the other.
“Sex” is intended to help souses experience security in selflessness.
But self-giving does not begin in the bedroom.
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March 18, 2024
Every Person’s Threefold Purpose: Are You Aiming for It?
A marksman aims at the target’s bullseye.
His posture, his breathing, his every movement is directed toward this.
An Olympic athlete has one goal: to win the gold.
Every meal, every training session, every thought is directed toward this goal.
What is your life’s purpose?
The Christian man’s default response is “Heaven” or “Getting to Heaven.”
Really?
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March 11, 2024
Andrew Tate’s ‘Gospel’
Over 100k+ men subscribed ($50 per month) to Andrew Tate’s Hustler University.
Why?
Because he promised something that they did not possess or possessed little of.
Power. Sex. Money.
He convinced men (loosely speaking) that to obtain...
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February 12, 2024
St. Joseph’s Secrecy— The Key to Humility
Summoned by God, the human father is to be a living reflection of God the Father (Mal 4:5-6; FC 25).
St. Joseph, the spiritual father of Jesus, reflected the Father to Him.
Silent, strong, St. Joseph is the archetype of masculinity and spiritual fatherhood.
He is the man who raised the God-man.
He is the father who imaged God the Father.
We “Go to Joseph” to learn to be a man;
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February 10, 2024
Jesus Denied Me
Each time I heard the Gospel account of the rich young man I cringed.
He pleads with Jesus, “What must I do to gain eternal life?”
Jesus responds, “Go sell all your possessions. Give the money to the poor. Then come and follow me.”
To follow Jesus presupposes that I sell my possessions?
To renounce house, money, furniture would sabotage my wife and children, damaging, if not destroying their lives.
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February 10, 2024
Two Things You Need to Be a Real Man— Do You Have Them?
The LORD is a warrior; Almighty is His name (Exo 15:3).
Men are made in God’s image (See Gen 1:27).
God created men to be warriors.
A warrior fights for that which he loves.
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February 10, 2024
Can a Father Be the Greatest in the Kingdom of God?
As I committed myself to embrace the summons to “Go home and be like St. Joseph,”
I was assailed by the continual temptation to believe that being married, having sexual intercourse,
having children, working for lucre, hindered, if not disqualified me from achieving great sanctity.
Sainthood, holiness appeared to be an impossible ideal.... READ MORE
February 9, 2024
My Vocation: The Path to Glorification
I did not want the hidden life of a husband and father.
I confessed to a Dominican Friar my ardent desire to do more, to be more, to have a noble purpose—to do and be something great.
After a lengthy pause, he uttered a phrase that like lightning and sword struck and pierced my soul:
“You will become a saint by means of your vocation—not outside of it.”
The prophetic utterance shook me.... READ MORE
February 9, 2024
Could I Become a Saint?
After marrying my wife and raising children, I realized the tremendous responsibility incumbent upon me to protect their souls.
I sought divine guidance.
As I began to follow Jesus more intentionally, I discovered that He summoned His followers to be “all-in.”
Inspired to be His disciple, I sought examples of saints who were laymen, fathers, husbands—like me.
I realized that though the Church beatified men who were fathers, there existed very few men who were lauded precisely for how they embraced their fatherly vocation.
Consequently, I surrendered to the false notion that the saint’s path is reserved for priests and religious but not for the common father.
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February 9, 2024
The Blueprint for Fatherly Sanctity
I am a husband. I am a father. I am common.
In the world, I am an unnoticed cog in the wheel.
In the Church, I am just another person in a pew.
The call to greatness, to glory appears beyond me.
I want to follow Christ, to be His saint.
But how.
I looked to the Church for the “way of a father.”
The Church offered so few saintly examples of fathers, no official encyclicals on fatherhood or on being a husband.
It appeared that no blueprint for fatherly sanctity existed.
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February 9, 2024
4 Questions to Ask Your Wife—Marriage Changer
I recently asked a prominent Catholic woman if she could offer advice to men who want a better marriage.
She said:
A woman becomes confident, alive, and giving, both vocationally and intimately when she “knows” and “feels” loved by her husband.
She must know it.
Which means that she must believe it.
Which means she must be convinced of it.
Which means she must feel it and experience it.
This means that her husband must show her.
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