Theological Made Practical Series | #8

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After Committing Adultery…Three Steps

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Many of us have committed adultery—physically, digitally, or both.

Often when the husband is guilty of infidelity, his wife blames herself.
Many men who have committed adultery have confided in me that their infidelity has little to do with their wives.
A man does not commit adultery because his wife is not more.
He is unfaithful because he is plagued by believing he is less.

His insecurity leads to his infidelity.

A female strokes his ego.
She feeds his insecurity (In the case of porn: she cannot say no).
He cannot resist the attention.
He fails.
His confidence plummets.
Unrestored confidence leads to further infidelity.

A marriage cannot be healed until a husband experiences healing.

Is there a way out?
Yes.
The 3 R’s:

1. Regret

Guilt is from God.
Guilt convicts us.
It is essential to receive God’s conviction…
Conviction inspires us to confess our sins (sacramentally) and plead for God’s mercy.

To remain in regret is to wallow in shame and self-hatred.
Hell is full of souls who have eternal regret.

“Godly sorrow brings repentance that leads to salvation and leaves no regret, but worldly sorrow brings death” (2 Cor 7:10).

2. Repent

Guilt must inspire change.
The Greek word for repent is metanoia—
To turn away from evil toward good.

You change your life by placing your little hand in God’s big hand.
You let the Father lead you.
You allow Him to forgive you, and forge your future…

3. Reject

But change is not merely superficial or behavioral.
The change must be psychological (in your soul) and relational (in your relationship with God).

The battle is not in our loins, but in our hearts.
We must fight to win every day.

How?

We must reject the devil’s lies concerning our identity.
We must believe that God does not define us by our sin, but as his son.
A man who knows that he is God the Father’s son and experiences His love is confident.
His Father’s love is sufficient.

This love emboldens him to not embrace lesser “loves.”

In the name of Jesus Christ, he renounces the lies and claims his sonship.
“Father, I am Yours. Your love is sufficient.”

Only trust in God the Father and his love for you will free you from insecurity and grant you fidelity.