Women Said This Makes Men Look Weak

The last thing a man wants is to be or to appear weak.
Hence, we work on our physique, power dress, posture and we attempt to hide anything that could be perceived as weakness.
Recently, my wife and I had the opportunity to ask married women what makes men, specifically husbands, appear weak.

After gathering all the feedback, I was surprised that not one woman mentioned height, physique, muscles, or wealth…not one.

We were able to segment their responses into three categories: Provider, Protector and Priest.
For the sake of brevity, we consolidated responses that were similar into one phrase.

Get ready:

Provider

1. Doesn’t help with the family
2. Doesn’t work hard
3. Doesn’t partner in the workload with children
4. Instability or insufficient employment to support the family
5. Laziness
6. Doesn’t pursue higher job positions- lack of confidence
7. Pursues his dream job at the expense of the family

Protector

1. Not able to say “no” to the children / not able to step in when it is unpleasant
2. Doesn’t set record straight when family members discredit or demeans wife and doesn’t come to her defense
3. Allows children to disrespect their mother
4. Disney Dad – refuses to discipline / gives in to every whim
5. Allows others to speak badly about his wife
6. Leaves wife to do bulk of newborn / infant care
7. Makes demeaning comments about his wife
8. Deflects the blame to wife / refusal to admit wrong

Priest (Sacrificial Leadership)

1. Being demanding / selfish / doesn’t serve
2. Unable to talk/share/initiate meaningful dialogue
3. Doesn’t stand against the wind of popular sentiments -appears weak
4. Lack of leadership
5. Lack of love and respect
6. Doesn’t take ownership on home front
7. Doesn’t lift up his wife / encourage her
8. Lack of leadership of family – puts load of mental burden on his wife
9. No purpose in life / no self-mastery

Don’t shoot the messenger.
I am simply relaying the information.
However, information leads to transformation.
Women want their husbands to lead by loving and to love by leading.
We have been given the information; the transformation depends on our response.

Devin Schadt | Executive Director of the Fathers of St. Joseph

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