Your Wife Avoiding Sexual Intimacy? This Could be Why…

A husband can be disconnected emotionally from his wife— and desire sexual intimacy with her.
When a wife’s emotional needs aren’t addressed, she often resists his sexual advancements.
God created conjugal union to reflect His Triune Godhead.
Each divine Person unreservedly, unselfishly gives to the other, for the sake of the other, and is one with the other.

“Sex” is intended to help spouses experience security in selflessness.

But self-giving does not begin in the bedroom.
If your wife is avoiding sexual intimacy, she may feel unfulfilled emotionally.

Reason 1: She Does Not Believe She is Your Top Priority

Often, after years of marriage, a husband notices his wife less.
He fails to intentionally reflect on why he married her.
He fails to express gratitude to her and for her.

Consequently, men invest more in work than in their marriages…
because work has a beginning and an end.
A problem and a solution.
A 9 and a 5.
Work is usually rewarded by a paycheck or an ‘at a boy.

But marriage is relational.
It cannot be solved.
There is no end, save death.
His effort is rarely affirmed.
It is open-ended growth in charity…

Marriage is harder work than work.

Reason 2: She Doesn’t Feel Beautiful

Women desire to be beautiful.
But as they age their external beauty fades.
She knows this. It pains her.

A husband eases her pain.
He intentionally sees her beauty and reminds her of it—often.
He avoids comparing her to other women.
He learns to “see” her soul through her body… and finds her beautiful.

Reason 3: She Doesn’t Feel Listened To

When a man feels disrespected by his wife, he inevitably tunes her out.
Consequently, she criticizes him.
Consequently, he tunes her out.
The cycle proceeds in perpetuity.

The man who shows his wife respect by listening (actively) to her, will be respected by her.
He finds the good in what she says.
He comments positively on it.
He engages her in conversation.

What to do: “Where there is no love, put love, and there will be love” (St. John of the Cross).