WHY IS IT SO HARD? | His Needs – Her Needs: Part 1

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Why Is it So Hard? Years ago, several families, including our own, each comprised of several young, hyper, manic, very hungry children, decided to dine at a local restaurant without making prior reservations. While we waited to be seated, the kids became increasingly irritable and unmanageable. Finally, after being led to our table, the mothers and children attempted to sort …

Tale of Two Fathers | Silence 6

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The Battle Within During the three-plus years of the Fathers of St. Joseph’s existence, men have repeatedly confided that they feel as though they don’t measure up to the “other guys,” who appear to have it all together. Several men have confessed that they have felt intimidated, inadequate, and tempted to stop attending the FOSJ gatherings because they see themselves …

SHOW US THE FATHER | Silence Part 5

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Show Us the Father I remember reading somewhere an account of St. Francis de Sales having a conversation with a young, overly confident, idealistic man who was bent on worldly success. The young man touted to Francis that he was preparing to attend a prestigious university. St. Francis replied, “And then what?” To which the young man said that he …

SACRIFICE: The Anima of Prayer | Silence 4

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All Men Suffer; Few Men Sacrifice The aversion to suffering is a universal experience we can all relate to. We instinctively recoil, resist, and even resent pain. As one comedian said, “I’m not into working out. My philosophy is no pain, no pain.” Pain causes one to suffer, and suffering prolongs pain. Suffering has many forms: emotional, physical, and spiritual, …

HEARING VOICES: Silence | Part 3

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Hearing Voices This marks the third segment in our series: The First Mark of a Great Man: Silence. Silence is one of the most essential characteristics of a powerful, peace-filled, resilient man. As we have discussed, silence has two forms: exterior and interior. The enemy and his kingdom of noise constrains most men from ever achieving any real sense of …

Strategies for Silence | Silence Part 2

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The Greatest Commodity: Peace Most of us have encountered conflicts, tensions, hardships, and crises. Whether it is the loss of a job, a teenage daughter becoming pregnant, an unfaithful wife, rebellious children, a terminal illness or life-altering health condition, we have all endured personal suffering. How do we respond in such situations? Some men actually become frustrated, angered, resentful, or …

The First Mark of a Great Father | Silence: Part 1

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The Voice That We Seek Have you ever asked any of these questions: “What can I do to be a better man, a better father?” “What is the secret to becoming the man that God has created me to be?” “What’s holding me back from becoming a man of strength, power, resilience and humility?” Or have you thought, “I’ve been …

FRIEND, FOE, OR FATHER | Humility Part 5

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How Will You Be Remembered? How do you want to be remembered? What type of legacy do you hope to impart to your family, your wife, your children? Would you be satisfied with an obituary title or an epitaph that reads, “He was a really nice guy”? Steven Spielberg’s riveting Saving Private Ryan contained a most haunting scene, in which …

WHAT’S HOLDING YOU BACK | Humility Part 4

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The Generational Gap Why are we here? Why do you and I sacrifice our time and precious sleep to be here at 6 a.m.? Perhaps it is because we subconsciously sense that there is something deeply troubling with our culture, that our children are under attack, and that our families are very vulnerable to the wiles of the wicked one. …