April 18, 2024
Striving for virtue, our fallen nature tends toward either deficient or excessive behavior (St. Thomas Aquinas).
Regarding food: we starve ourselves (deficiency), or binge (excessiveness).
Regarding sex: we deem the act as perverse (deficient) or we indulge immorally (excessive).
Regarding fatherhood...
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April 15, 2024
Many of us have committed adultery—physically, digitally, or both.
Often when the husband is guilty of infidelity, his wife blames herself.
Many men who have committed adultery have confided in me that their infidelity has little to do with their wives.
A man does not commit adultery because his wife is not more.
He is unfaithful because he is plagued by believing he is less...
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April 8, 2024
Many Catholics are dead.
I don’t mean that they have died.
They have a pulse. They breathe. The appear alive.
But they are spiritually lifeless.
They live to exist, rather than using their existence to live.
Our Lord said to the early church in Sardis, “You have the reputation of being alive, but you are dead” (See Rev 3:1).
The situation is far worse today than in first century Sardis...
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April 1, 2024
Endeavoring to know St. Joseph I encountered several obstacles:
1. No record of anything St. Joseph said exists.
2. The Sacred Scripture mentions him sparingly.
3. Myth and legend eclipsed the truth regarding him.
I began praying over the scripture passages referencing St. Joseph.
Mysterious silence shrouds Joseph.
Yet that silence speaks profoundly of his fatherly greatness.
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April 1, 2024
Women identify men who they deem capable of providing financially and protecting physically as having the potential to be “husband.”
During the dating/courting phase, men put on their best show.
They veil those secret haunting insecurities of self-doubt.
The woman is convinced that he has what it takes.
Post wedding day, a husband gradually shows his true colors.
Little by little he confides in her his self-doubts...
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March 25, 2024
Without respect, a man cannot lead effectively.
The man who respects not will not be respected.
By resenting authority, a man undermines his own authority.
Why? By submitting to no one, he gives others permission to submit not to him.
If a person of authority desires respect, he must give respect to the one from whom he received authority.
How?
Obedience.
We “Go to Joseph” to learn to be a man;
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March 25, 2024
Your Wife Avoiding Sexual Intimacy?
This Could be Why…
A husband can be disconnected emotionally from his wife— and desire sexual intimacy with her.
When a wife’s emotional needs aren’t addressed, she often resists his sexual advancements.
God created conjugal union to reflect His Triune Godhead.
Each divine Person unreservedly, unselfishly gives to the other, for the sake of the other, and is one with the other.
“Sex” is intended to help souses experience security in selflessness.
But self-giving does not begin in the bedroom.
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March 18, 2024
A marksman aims at the target’s bullseye.
His posture, his breathing, his every movement is directed toward this.
An Olympic athlete has one goal: to win the gold.
Every meal, every training session, every thought is directed toward this goal.
What is your life’s purpose?
The Christian man’s default response is “Heaven” or “Getting to Heaven.”
Really?
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March 11, 2024
Over 100k+ men subscribed ($50 per month) to Andrew Tate’s Hustler University.
Why?
Because he promised something that they did not possess or possessed little of.
Power. Sex. Money.
He convinced men (loosely speaking) that to obtain...
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February 12, 2024
Summoned by God, the human father is to be a living reflection of God the Father (Mal 4:5-6; FC 25).
St. Joseph, the spiritual father of Jesus, reflected the Father to Him.
Silent, strong, St. Joseph is the archetype of masculinity and spiritual fatherhood.
He is the man who raised the God-man.
He is the father who imaged God the Father.
We “Go to Joseph” to learn to be a man;
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February 10, 2024
Each time I heard the Gospel account of the rich young man I cringed.
He pleads with Jesus, “What must I do to gain eternal life?”
Jesus responds, “Go sell all your possessions. Give the money to the poor. Then come and follow me.”
To follow Jesus presupposes that I sell my possessions?
To renounce house, money, furniture would sabotage my wife and children, damaging, if not destroying their lives.
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February 10, 2024
The LORD is a warrior; Almighty is His name (Exo 15:3).
Men are made in God’s image (See Gen 1:27).
God created men to be warriors.
A warrior fights for that which he loves.
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February 10, 2024
As I committed myself to embrace the summons to “Go home and be like St. Joseph,”
I was assailed by the continual temptation to believe that being married, having sexual intercourse,
having children, working for lucre, hindered, if not disqualified me from achieving great sanctity.
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February 9, 2024
I did not want the hidden life of a husband and father.
I confessed to a Dominican Friar my ardent desire to do more, to be more, to have a noble purpose—to do and be something great.
After a lengthy pause, he uttered a phrase that like lightning and sword struck and pierced my soul:
“You will become a saint by means of your vocation—not outside of it.”
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February 9, 2024
After marrying my wife and raising children, I realized the tremendous responsibility incumbent upon me to protect their souls.
I sought divine guidance.
As I began to follow Jesus more intentionally, I discovered that He summoned His followers to be “all-in.”
Inspired to be His disciple, I sought examples of saints who were laymen, fathers, husbands—like me.
I realized that though the Church beatified men who were fathers, there existed very few men who were lauded precisely for how they embraced their fatherly vocation.
Consequently, I surrendered to the false notion that the saint’s path is reserved for priests and religious but not for the common father.
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February 9, 2024
I am a husband. I am a father. I am common.
In the world, I am an unnoticed cog in the wheel.
In the Church, I am just another person in a pew.
The call to greatness, to glory appears beyond me.
I want to follow Christ, to be His saint.
But how.
I looked to the Church for the “way of a father.”
The Church offered so few saintly examples of fathers, no official encyclicals on fatherhood or on being a husband.
It appeared that no blueprint for fatherly sanctity existed.
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February 9, 2024
I recently asked a prominent Catholic woman if she could offer advice to men who want a better marriage.
She said:
A woman becomes confident, alive, and giving, both vocationally and intimately when she “knows” and “feels” loved by her husband.
She must know it.
Which means that she must believe it.
Which means she must be convinced of it.
Which means she must feel it and experience it.
This means that her husband must show her.
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